Relationships

 

Our way of relating to others has meaning for our well-being. We can get energy and stimulation by social interactions and being with other people. We can also get energy from solitude and reflection, to withdraw and recharge. We often have a need for both. Listen to your needs, what do you need to get a good balance between hanging out with others and time alone?

Signs that you are in an unhealthy relationship

Relationships are complex and it can be difficult to understand how a healthy relationship differs from an unhealthy one. A short answer could be that an unhealthy relationship, regardless of whether it is with a partner, friend, or parent, makes you feel uncomfortable in different ways. You may worry and feel anxious about the relationship or when you think of the person in question. You may feel worn out, sleep poorly or have physical symptoms that are linked to the relationship. 

Being in a relationship with someone or with some people involves compromising: giving and taking. However, it is important that there is a balance between the giving and the taking. 

Keep this in mind when it comes to relationships 

• You can never change anyone else – only your own behaviour and actions towards the person you have a relationship with. 
• Practice being healthily assertive: set your own boundaries, say no, and express your own opinions and viewpoints. 
• Ask yourself if you feel comfortable in the relationship. If the answer is no, you may have to end it.

When to seek professional help

You can seek support if you need to sort out whether - and if so how - you can change your own behaviour to make a certain relationship work better. Seek help as soon as possible if you are in a destructive relationship and need help ending it. 

You can turn to the Student Health office for advice and support, or to get guidance on where you can seek help. You can also contact your local health centre or seek help via 1177.se